Outside Talk

In a relationship, there are two kinds of talk: outside and inside.

Inside talk is what is done between the two involved in the relationship. Outside talk is what is done between the two involved in the relationship and everyone else.

People will only have outside talk about two kinds of relationships: bad and good. Most times people don't talk about 'ok' relationships because they are just okay. Nothing is really going on, so nothing can really be talked about. Plus, 'ok' relationships are boring so why bore the next one...lol

Bad relationships are usually discussed between friends. Friends will sit around and discuss all the bad the man/woman is doing. Most times a friend sticks themselves in the relationship and start dishing advice as if they will be involved in the threesome later...

Some good AND some bad can come from bad relationship talk..

The good: Most times people in the relationship are blinded. They are sometimes blinded by love, by money, by the hopes of a future, or sometimes even that thing in between the legs. When people are blinded, they can not see. Often times, they can not see what is right in front of their noses. Friends usually shine light on the situation and show the one involved in the relationship what they can't see.

The bad: Some people are jealous hearted. Some times people see a good thing and try to break it apart just so they can get a piece. When a person involved in a semi bad relationship talks to friends about it, the so-called friends may be the cause of the bad.

Just like with everything in life, things can be twisted and confused.

Example: Person A is doing bad. Person B cries to sleep every night. Person B talks to friends about Person A. Friends B shine light on Person A. Person B tells Person A what they think. Person A then says... 'Talking to your jealous friends is messing up our relationship. They don't live with us, they don't know what we go through. Your friends will make you miss out on a good man/woman. [and just for fun] I love you"

Females [yes, I said females] are quick to diss their real friends for a no-good man. Because that female is blinded, they allow their mate to be their guide because they are on a mission. Sometimes on a mission for a ring, a baby, or a prosperous future but a blinded female always want something. In spite of what their friends is telling them, females will listen to their man and then go back and tell their friends..... "I decided not to talk to people about my relationship cause no body knows what really goes on. Me and my boyfriend/husband will just work on our stuff together. [and just for fun] He loves me"

In my opinion, a man doing bad usually loves the power he holds over his female.

[CUT: I'm using male, but females play the same game]

Since that man loves that power, of course, he doesn't want to lose it. He have power by manipulating his female. When that female talks to her friends, that male loses power. So to keep his power, he makes the female think that her friends are telling her wrong and that she should only listen to him..

[to be continued]