In a relationship, there are two kinds of talk: outside and inside.
Inside talk is what is done between the two involved in the relationship. Outside talk is what is done between the two involved in the relationship and everyone else.
People will only have outside talk about two kinds of relationships: bad and good. Most times people don't talk about 'ok' relationships because they are just okay. Nothing is really going on, so nothing can really be talked about. Plus, 'ok' relationships are boring so why bore the next one...lol
Bad relationships are usually discussed between friends. Friends will sit around and discuss all the bad the man/woman is doing. Most times a friend sticks themselves in the relationship and start dishing advice as if they will be involved in the threesome later...
Some good AND some bad can come from bad relationship talk..
The good: Most times people in the relationship are blinded. They are sometimes blinded by love, by money, by the hopes of a future, or sometimes even that thing in between the legs. When people are blinded, they can not see. Often times, they can not see what is right in front of their noses. Friends usually shine light on the situation and show the one involved in the relationship what they can't see.
The bad: Some people are jealous hearted. Some times people see a good thing and try to break it apart just so they can get a piece. When a person involved in a semi bad relationship talks to friends about it, the so-called friends may be the cause of the bad.
Just like with everything in life, things can be twisted and confused.
Example: Person A is doing bad. Person B cries to sleep every night. Person B talks to friends about Person A. Friends B shine light on Person A. Person B tells Person A what they think. Person A then says... 'Talking to your jealous friends is messing up our relationship. They don't live with us, they don't know what we go through. Your friends will make you miss out on a good man/woman. [and just for fun] I love you"
Females [yes, I said females] are quick to diss their real friends for a no-good man. Because that female is blinded, they allow their mate to be their guide because they are on a mission. Sometimes on a mission for a ring, a baby, or a prosperous future but a blinded female always want something. In spite of what their friends is telling them, females will listen to their man and then go back and tell their friends..... "I decided not to talk to people about my relationship cause no body knows what really goes on. Me and my boyfriend/husband will just work on our stuff together. [and just for fun] He loves me"
In my opinion, a man doing bad usually loves the power he holds over his female.
[CUT: I'm using male, but females play the same game]
Since that man loves that power, of course, he doesn't want to lose it. He have power by manipulating his female. When that female talks to her friends, that male loses power. So to keep his power, he makes the female think that her friends are telling her wrong and that she should only listen to him..
[to be continued]
How to Play the Game::
Every one is playing, but it is how you play that determine your faith.. Are you knowledgeable of the rules? Do you know all the characters? Get the know...
Every one is playing, but it is how you play that determine your faith.. Are you knowledgeable of the rules? Do you know all the characters? Get the know...
Sex
Being this is the first post, I thought I would talk about something that is often confused.... Sex..
Sex is a tricky thing.. Unfortunately, men and women sees sex differently. True, there are many exceptions to every rule and those exceptions will be discussed in later posts. This post will concentrate solely on the generalized notions of sex.
In the Bible, it says that sex should only be participated in union; in other words, by husbands and wives. It also says that women should give sex to their husbands as often as it is asked.
In my opinion, sex should only be entered by husbands and wives because sex creates unions and bonds, some of which that lasts even after the foreplay. When man and woman participates in sex, their body become one. That oneness can create emotions, thoughts, and memories.
For some women, sex constitutes love. There are some women that actually believes that a man will lay down with them only if he love them.
Some women actually believes that if a man mentions a condom or birth control that he truly cares.
Some women actually believes that if a man calls the next morning, or even the next day, that he truly cares.
Some women actually believes that if a man stays for the night and hold her during the night that he actually cares.
It goes back to the concept of game. Every one plays games differently. In poker, some can keep a straight poker face and some can tell all bluffs.
Not all men that calls, holds, stays, and mentions truly cares. They are just dawg good at the game.
Men, however, have many different views of sex. Some men sees sex as just that sex. Sex creates no bonds, no emotions, no ties. Sex is simply an action that two people participates in which parties finished pleased.
When a man calls, holds, stays, and mentions it is simply him playing the game. Men are not as dumb as females seem to believe.
When a man enters a relationship, he observes and analyzes the female. He sees what she responds to and use that to his advantage.
Now sometimes a man's purpose is to love, marry, and honor the female. But in some, their purpose is simply to get laid.
Men knows what they have to do to get what they want. Like mentioned early, it can either be a wife or a bed partner or any other.
If a man is looking for a bed partner, he will do whatever have have to do to get that female in his bed again. If a man is looking for a wife, he will do whatever he have to do to get that female at the alter.
Not all people have bad intentions.... you just have to know the game...
[to be continued]
Sex is a tricky thing.. Unfortunately, men and women sees sex differently. True, there are many exceptions to every rule and those exceptions will be discussed in later posts. This post will concentrate solely on the generalized notions of sex.
In the Bible, it says that sex should only be participated in union; in other words, by husbands and wives. It also says that women should give sex to their husbands as often as it is asked.
In my opinion, sex should only be entered by husbands and wives because sex creates unions and bonds, some of which that lasts even after the foreplay. When man and woman participates in sex, their body become one. That oneness can create emotions, thoughts, and memories.
For some women, sex constitutes love. There are some women that actually believes that a man will lay down with them only if he love them.
Some women actually believes that if a man mentions a condom or birth control that he truly cares.
Some women actually believes that if a man calls the next morning, or even the next day, that he truly cares.
Some women actually believes that if a man stays for the night and hold her during the night that he actually cares.
It goes back to the concept of game. Every one plays games differently. In poker, some can keep a straight poker face and some can tell all bluffs.
Not all men that calls, holds, stays, and mentions truly cares. They are just dawg good at the game.
Men, however, have many different views of sex. Some men sees sex as just that sex. Sex creates no bonds, no emotions, no ties. Sex is simply an action that two people participates in which parties finished pleased.
When a man calls, holds, stays, and mentions it is simply him playing the game. Men are not as dumb as females seem to believe.
When a man enters a relationship, he observes and analyzes the female. He sees what she responds to and use that to his advantage.
Now sometimes a man's purpose is to love, marry, and honor the female. But in some, their purpose is simply to get laid.
Men knows what they have to do to get what they want. Like mentioned early, it can either be a wife or a bed partner or any other.
If a man is looking for a bed partner, he will do whatever have have to do to get that female in his bed again. If a man is looking for a wife, he will do whatever he have to do to get that female at the alter.
Not all people have bad intentions.... you just have to know the game...
[to be continued]
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