Are you in love or are you in stupid love? That is the question.
My friend is crying over a man. [Went on a limb to say man, but I will stick with it] She is pregnant for the man but the man does not want to get married. So she is stuck being a single mother of two.
I read a saying somewhere that said 'love hurts'.. Love doesn't hurt. Stupid love hurts.
Love is best shared when both people are mature and both are playing the same game.
When one person is playing the game of marriage and the other is playing the game of infidelity then of course that stupid love will hurt because they are not playing the same game.
Upon entering a relationship, males and females should try to understand the game that they and their partner are playing. Like board games, you can't play unless you know the rules or, in some cases, the actual game you are playing.
How to Play the Game::
Every one is playing, but it is how you play that determine your faith.. Are you knowledgeable of the rules? Do you know all the characters? Get the know...
Every one is playing, but it is how you play that determine your faith.. Are you knowledgeable of the rules? Do you know all the characters? Get the know...
Denial
Sometimes denial and love goes hand in hand. To be in love, sometimes you have to be in denial.
I have a friend who is part of a crazy relationship. Lots of ups and downs, similar to a normal relationship. I do recognize that a relationship is just that... a relationship. A relationship does not guarantee love. A relationship is simply a tie the two people share. But see is definitely in denial.
One thing about love is that love cause great denial. That, however, can have its bads and its goods. When two people are in true love, denial can be a good thing. So what if your man pee'd in his pants [very extreme, but hey].. So what if your woman is throwing up everywhere. When two people are in love, it is those times that becomes forgettable.
When in love, people can actually be themselves. There is no impressing. People are very embarrassing creatures. There are some things that people will only feel comfortable doing by themselves or around the one that they are in love with. It is then when denial comes into play. Although the partner fots, burbs, pig out, etc, they are the love of your life and you love them. [Yes, true, some are really extreme but when married a person sometimes have no where to hide so things happen.]
However, love and denial can also be bad. Not all love is true.
I was in a relationship a few years back and I KNEW I was in love. I was even told everyday, that I was loved.
** Being told 'I love you' does not magically create love **
I was also cheated on. Because I was in love, I ignored all signs of cheating. Yes, he used to keep his phone on him every second. Yes, his phone was always on silent or on vibrate. Yes, most times I called and he didn't answer but called me back a while later. Yes, we only went to some places. In spite of all of that I was in denial. I witnessed it all, but ignored it.
Love mixed with denial is a crazy thing.
Just for the record, I am no longer in that relationship.
One thing about denial is that denial would cause lust to be confused with true love.
Just because a man calls regularly, that does not mean that he is in love. He could just be bored. His 'main' could be at work. Just because a man tells you he loves you that does not mean that he is in love. He might just be telling you what you want to hear to get what he wants. Just because a man buys you stuff that does not mean that he loves you. He could just love shopping. He could just have money out the rear. He could just see you as an investment. He could have brought it for his 'main' and she probably didn't want it.
Unfornately, lust is great and provide great pleasure.. But lust mixed with denial that is confused with love will cause great pain at the end.
So are you in love?? Or just lust mixed with denial??
I have a friend who is part of a crazy relationship. Lots of ups and downs, similar to a normal relationship. I do recognize that a relationship is just that... a relationship. A relationship does not guarantee love. A relationship is simply a tie the two people share. But see is definitely in denial.
One thing about love is that love cause great denial. That, however, can have its bads and its goods. When two people are in true love, denial can be a good thing. So what if your man pee'd in his pants [very extreme, but hey].. So what if your woman is throwing up everywhere. When two people are in love, it is those times that becomes forgettable.
When in love, people can actually be themselves. There is no impressing. People are very embarrassing creatures. There are some things that people will only feel comfortable doing by themselves or around the one that they are in love with. It is then when denial comes into play. Although the partner fots, burbs, pig out, etc, they are the love of your life and you love them. [Yes, true, some are really extreme but when married a person sometimes have no where to hide so things happen.]
However, love and denial can also be bad. Not all love is true.
I was in a relationship a few years back and I KNEW I was in love. I was even told everyday, that I was loved.
** Being told 'I love you' does not magically create love **
I was also cheated on. Because I was in love, I ignored all signs of cheating. Yes, he used to keep his phone on him every second. Yes, his phone was always on silent or on vibrate. Yes, most times I called and he didn't answer but called me back a while later. Yes, we only went to some places. In spite of all of that I was in denial. I witnessed it all, but ignored it.
Love mixed with denial is a crazy thing.
Just for the record, I am no longer in that relationship.
One thing about denial is that denial would cause lust to be confused with true love.
Just because a man calls regularly, that does not mean that he is in love. He could just be bored. His 'main' could be at work. Just because a man tells you he loves you that does not mean that he is in love. He might just be telling you what you want to hear to get what he wants. Just because a man buys you stuff that does not mean that he loves you. He could just love shopping. He could just have money out the rear. He could just see you as an investment. He could have brought it for his 'main' and she probably didn't want it.
Unfornately, lust is great and provide great pleasure.. But lust mixed with denial that is confused with love will cause great pain at the end.
So are you in love?? Or just lust mixed with denial??
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